In Nathaniel Hawthorne’s short story The Birthmark, a woman is pressured by her husband to have a birthmark removed from her face because he feels she would finally be perfect without it. The woman had grown very find of this birthmark and never wanted it to go away. After her husband makes her feel terrible about it, she decides to have it removed. Once the process is complete, she becomes very ill and eventually dies. In a way the husband was right, it made her perfect, but God never intended for anyone to be perfect, therefore she could no longer live. Her husband may have achieved his goal of making his wife perfect, but in the end it was all for nothing because he lost her anyway.
The same way Hawthorne reflected a push for perfection in his story, society affects the way people think of themselves today. This feeling of always having to be perfect mostly affects girls. In the video below a short study is shown of how younger girls feel that they are not pretty enough because of what they look like compared to what society feels they should look like.
Most girls today are directly affected by how society thinks they should look. Some girls want to be skinnier, some more tan, some taller, or some even shorter. Most teenage girls you ask today will tell you that they are unhappy with their appearance. They see a picture of a movie star with a size 00 bikini hanging off of them and feel that they would only be pretty if that’s what they looked like. A girl can often look in a magazine and try to create her makeup to look the exact same way so that she can be perfect. Society is constantly telling a girl that she is not smart enough or pretty enough, when in fact, that is not the case at all.
The girl below is looking at herself in the mirror and feeling uncomfortable with who she is.
Not only are girls pressured to be perfect in the way they look, but also in how they live their life. Society feels that both boys and girl should be fully successful in life and become someone. In a way, they are saying that if a person doesn't go to college then he or she will become a nobody. In fact, some of the most successful people in the world did not even finish high school. Whether you work a crappy job or have the best job ever, you are still blessed to be getting a pay check. Success should not be according to how much money you make. Success in life is achieving any goal you have made for yourself. There isn't anyone that can take that away from you.
No one can truly be perfect and I think it is very disturbing that the society of today has to make everyone feel uncomfortable with themselves. All they seem to do is put other people down so that they can feel good about themselves. No one in the world should think they aren't good enough. You can't always please everyone and the only person you should worry about pleasing is yourself. You are who you are because God made you that way, and for a very good reason. Embrace it, you are beautiful no matter what.